A favorite

No.. it’s not a post about fallout, like I said I was going to write.. still going to do this.  But I thought I would post something slightly different.

Vale and his “twin” Payne are close.  The twin is in quotes because they aren’t really twins.  Vale was adopted, Payne is homegrown.  They are a little less than 6 months apart.  But they do look a like, and they are very similar in personality.  Payne has been exceptionally supportive of Vale.  

So yesterday, after going on a very long walk with Payne, Vale asks me, “Is it wrong to have a favorite sibling?”   I laughed.  I assured him it was not, as long as his favor doesn’t exclude everyone else.  In fact Vale may find that Payne is his favorite sibling to share troubles and secrets with, but if he wants to go to the ballgame, Payne ain’t the gal for him.  Vale has 5 siblings, he may find that all of his siblings are a favorite for something.

What I think is so neat about Vale and Payne is that both of them have personalities lend themselves to being more closed, more stoic.  These are both children of trauma.  No, Payne wasn’t raped, but she has a lot of physical problems.  She went through two years where she was forced to her knees by a pain syndrome called Reflex Neurovascular Dystrophy.  It took a long time to diagnose, and it was brutal to treat.  She will always have it has a partner in her life.  So, although it is not the same, Payne understands what it means to suffer.  And her quiet, steadfast sometimes intrusive devotion to Vale makes this journey a little easier. 

You know what’s ironic?  I think Payne is helping Vale to heal… but I think he’s helping her to heal too.

A favorite

No.. it’s not a post about fallout, like I said I was going to write.. still going to do this.  But I thought I would post something slightly different.

Vale and his “twin” Payne are close.  The twin is in quotes because they aren’t really twins.  Vale was adopted, Payne is homegrown.  They are a little less than 6 months apart.  But they do look a like, and they are very similar in personality.  Payne has been exceptionally supportive of Vale.  

So yesterday, after going on a very long walk with Payne, Vale asks me, “Is it wrong to have a favorite sibling?”   I laughed.  I assured him it was not, as long as his favor doesn’t exclude everyone else.  In fact Vale may find that Payne is his favorite sibling to share troubles and secrets with, but if he wants to go to the ballgame, Payne ain’t the gal for him.  Vale has 5 siblings, he may find that all of his siblings are a favorite for something.

What I think is so neat about Vale and Payne is that both of them have personalities lend themselves to being more closed, more stoic.  These are both children of trauma.  No, Payne wasn’t raped, but she has a lot of physical problems.  She went through two years where she was forced to her knees by a pain syndrome called Reflex Neurovascular Dystrophy.  It took a long time to diagnose, and it was brutal to treat.  She will always have it has a partner in her life.  So, although it is not the same, Payne understands what it means to suffer.  And her quiet, steadfast sometimes intrusive devotion to Vale makes this journey a little easier. 

You know what’s ironic?  I think Payne is helping Vale to heal… but I think he’s helping her to heal too.