Facepalm!

Just letting you have a peek in on a conversation I’m having with one of Vale’s teachers:

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Me [04:31 PM]: Mrs. Health Teacher,
I’m going to do a preemptive strike here… during health, the 3rd Unit on Nutrition.  I’m guessing there are lessons about ED and calories, portion sizes.. am I right?
Mrs. Health Teacher [05:59 PM]: Yes, we do talk about all of that.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Me [12:53 PM]: That’s what I thought.  Could we be proactive and think of an acceptable work around?  Him ‘learning’ about various forms of ED or how portions are so much bigger, or how many calories are in an average McD meal is super unproductive. What could he do instead.  What about him doing a power point on ED that perhaps you could share with your students in the future.  LIke a look at ED from the inside.  Vale is an activist, and this just might be helpful.  What do you think?
 
Mrs. Health Teacher [01:08 PM]: Mrs. Vale’s Mom, what specific information is not helpful? In the lessons we talked about the importance of nutrition, nutrients, how to choose good/bad foods based on labels, how to eat healthy, maintaining a healthy weight, obesity, and fad diets/eating disorders.

Me [03:55 PM]: Well, all of that.  May I ask, what is your experience with people with eating disorders? =)

Ummmmm… where do I even begin with this…

 

Not a gambler

Seems like I’m making deals with the Devil.  Vale has been purging and/or trying to purge far more than he’s let us know.  He says the days run together but he thinks its somewhere near twice a day; sometimes more, sometimes less.  Even though the visceral reaction is strong when looking at his carved up arms, the secret purging horrifies me.  I think I’ve explained why (I can’t remember what I’ve blogged and what I haven’t)… there is no way I can control it.  And the purging is far more deadly.

He says if I allow him to eat as much as he wishes, and not more, the desire to purge would most likely not occur.  So what do you do?  Do you allow your child to restrict to approximately one quarter of the caloric intact that you know they should have?  Or do you try to push more down their throats and know that there’s a good chance they’re just going to puke it up anyway?  Do I sell my soul, or Vale’s?

Not a gambler

Seems like I’m making deals with the Devil.  Vale has been purging and/or trying to purge far more than he’s let us know.  He says the days run together but he thinks its somewhere near twice a day; sometimes more, sometimes less.  Even though the visceral reaction is strong when looking at his carved up arms, the secret purging horrifies me.  I think I’ve explained why (I can’t remember what I’ve blogged and what I haven’t)… there is no way I can control it.  And the purging is far more deadly.

He says if I allow him to eat as much as he wishes, and not more, the desire to purge would most likely not occur.  So what do you do?  Do you allow your child to restrict to approximately one quarter of the caloric intact that you know they should have?  Or do you try to push more down their throats and know that there’s a good chance they’re just going to puke it up anyway?  Do I sell my soul, or Vale’s?