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Eating Disorders and Sin

Do you recall that friend of mine, the one who I had the unmitigated joy of informing her that her daughter has an eating disorder?  She recently commented in a group on Facebook that another friend of hers told her that the daughter’s eating disorder is a sin problem.  If I had a quarter for every time I had wrestled with that thought or told something very similar I would be really wealthy.  I think calling this or any other mental illness a sin like that is an abusive oversimplification.  Is it really how God wants us to live? No.  But I think there is a lot more going on in a human brain that we possibly know about that to dismiss something so horrific as an eating disorder as a sin to simply ‘stop and get over it’ is a sin.

Let me mention here that 1) I believe God can give and enable complete recovery over an eating disorder, which doesn’t mean that it won’t be part of a suffers life.  It just doesn’t have to consume it. 2) The Bible truly does have the answer to every hardship.  With that in mind, I’d like to share an article I’ve recently read on the question of Eating Disorders and sin.

Question: “What does the Bible say about eating disorders (e.g., anorexia, bulimia)?”

Answer: Eating disorders can be a difficult topic to discuss. Sufferers and their families often experience great shame, and the disorders are not easily treated. Sadly, eating disorders are not uncommon in Western culture. Psychologists and other professionals now recognize three distinct eating disorders, as well as disordered eating, which does not fit into one of the three categories.

Anorexia nervosa is a disorder in which a person will not maintain a normal weight (85 percent or less of the weight that would be considered normal for a person of the same age and height), is fearful of weight gain, and has a distorted image of his or her body (often believing he or she is fat or not admitting the seriousness of his or her low body weight). People with anorexia nervosa maintain their low body weights either through restricting food or, at times, through developing bingeing/purging behavior. Bulimia nervosa is characterized by recurrent episodes of binge eating (eating more than would be considered normal in a particular amount of time and doing so with a sense of lack of control) and recurrent purging (through vomiting, laxative use, or even excessive exercise). Self-evaluation for people with bulimia nervosa depends on body shape and weight more so than for others, though most people with bulimia nervosa are within a normal weight range (perhaps a little below or above normal weight). Binge eating disorder has been newly classified. It is essentially a disorder in which a person engages in binge eating without compensatory or purging behaviors. Compulsive overeating or food addiction is not specifically classified as an eating disorder, though it certainly is disordered eating and often includes obsessive thoughts about food. (Some people consider gluttony an eating disorder, but for the purposes of this article, we will not address it. Please see our article on gluttony.)

Polls report differing numbers, but at least 1 out of every 10 women will have experienced an eating disorder at some time in her life, and some polls suggest that as many as 1 out of 4 will. Eating disorders do not only affect women, either: approximately 10 percent of those with an eating disorder are men.

Eating disorders have many reported causes: stress, anxiety, inability to express emotions productively, control, personality traits (obsessive compulsive, perfectionistic), media, and unhealthy relationships. However, eating disorders seem to have at the root an over-emphasis on self. Generally, people with eating disorders have a negative (or at least extremely low) view of self. This self-hatred, demand for self to be perfect by one’s own willpower, or sense that one must and can control his own environment can be very destructive to the health and well-being of an individual, not only to the body but to the spirit as well. It also can have profound effects on the sufferer’s family.

For the Christian, eating disordered behavior is contrary to God’s ways. First Corinthians 6:19-20 tells us, “Don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body” (NLT). Add to this passage such verses as Romans 14:7-8, “For we are not our own masters when we live or when we die. While we live, we live to please the Lord. And when we die, we go to be with the Lord. So in life and in death, we belong to the Lord” (NLT). If our bodies belong to the Lord, then He is the master of them, and the way we treat them either honors or dishonors God. Eating disordered behavior does not fall into line with Scripture. The thoughts behind eating disordered behavior also do not fall into line with Scripture. The Bible reassures us of God’s great love for us, which results in self-acceptance and an out flowing of love to others (1 John 4:16-19; John 13:34-35). The Bible speaks to God’s sovereignty and control; a person who develops an eating disorder in order to gain control needs to give his or her trust to God and learn to rest in His capable hands.

Eating disorders are not physically, psychologically, or spiritually healthy. They result from a fallen world and a hurt human being. It is incumbent upon a Christian suffering from an eating disorder—and his/her family as well—to seek as much medical, psychological, and spiritual help as necessary to treat the problem. The journey to health and wholeness may be long, but Jesus has set Christians free (Galatians 5:1). The Holy Spirit has the power to break the bondage of eating disorders. If we are His in Christ, He makes that power available to us (Romans 8:9-11; Ephesians 3:20-21).

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Hello there. I havent talked to you in a while, and something really weird has happened. My boyfriend told me this weekend that he has bulimia. He knows he’s not fat - he’s actually very athletic, in shape, and thin - but he says he just does it after he is stressed and eats a lot. I am scared for him and only his family and I know. His family doesn’t know that he still does it - they think he’s stopped years ago. He’s 19 and has been doing it since his junior year in high school. I am scared for him. I want to be there for him but he lives four hours away and we only get to see each other every two weeks. I love him dearly, and I don’t know what I’d do if something happened to him. I know your son has had problems, and I was wondering what you would recommend me doing? Thank you so much.
Tell.  His.  Parents.

Bulimia is a deadly, vicious monkey on the back.  He needs support and he needs to be monitored.  I know it may seem disloyal, but it is the kindest most loving thing you could do.  Please consider the following:

Effects of bulimia When you are living with bulimia, you are putting your body—and even your life—at risk. The most dangerous side effect of bulimia is dehydration due to purging. Vomiting, laxatives, and diuretics can cause electrolyte imbalances in the body, most commonly in the form of low potassium levels. Low potassium levels trigger a wide range of symptoms ranging from lethargy and cloudy thinking to irregular heartbeat and death. Chronically low levels of potassium can also result in kidney failure.

Other common medical complications and adverse effects of bulimia include:
  • Weight gain
  • Abdominal pain, bloating
  • Swelling of the hands and feet
  • Chronic sore throat, hoarseness
  • Broken blood vessels in the eyes
  • Swollen cheeks and salivary glands
  • Weakness and dizziness
  • Tooth decay and mouth sores
  • Acid reflux or ulcers
  • Ruptured stomach or esophagus
  • Loss of menstrual periods
  • Chronic constipation from laxative abuse
 

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Anonymous Asks….

Hello there. I havent talked to you in a while, and something really weird has happened. My boyfriend told me this weekend that he has bulimia. He knows hes not fat - hes actually very athletic, in shape, and thin - but he says he just does it after he is stressed and eats alot. I am scared for him and only his family and I know. His family doesnt know that he still does it - they think he’s stopped years ago. He’s 19 and has been doing it since his junior year in high school. I am scared for him. I want to be there for him but he lives four hours away and we only get to see each other every two weeks. I love him dearly, and I don’t know what I’d do if something happened to him. I know your son has had problems, and I was wondering what you would recommend me doing? Thank you so much.

Tell.  His.  Parents.

Bulimia is a deadly, vicious monkey on the back.  He needs support and he needs to be monitored.  I know it may seem disloyal, but it is the kindest most loving thing you could do.  Please consider the following:

Effects of bulimia

When you are living with bulimia, you are putting your body—and even your life—at risk. The most dangerous side effect of bulimia is dehydration due to purging. Vomiting, laxatives, and diuretics can cause electrolyte imbalances in the body, most commonly in the form of low potassium levels. Low potassium levels trigger a wide range of symptoms ranging from lethargy and cloudy thinking to irregular heartbeat and death. Chronically low levels of potassium can also result in kidney failure.

Other common medical complications and adverse effects of bulimia include:

  • Weight gain
  • Abdominal pain, bloating
  • Swelling of the hands and feet
  • Chronic sore throat, hoarseness
  • Broken blood vessels in the eyes
  • Swollen cheeks and salivary glands
  • Weakness and dizziness
  • Tooth decay and mouth sores
  • Acid reflux or ulcers
  • Ruptured stomach or esophagus
  • Loss of menstrual periods
  • Chronic constipation from laxative abuse

Source: helpguide.org

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    • #ED
  • 2 years ago
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Correcting a disservice

I was convicted about a disservice I had done to all our readers.  I talk so much about the anxiety and the strain but so little about the sustaining faith that gets us through it.  That just can’t be.  So over the next few Sundays I’m going to post something about what God is doing in us and through us, even in the midst of all this heart ache.

Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior.  He reminds me of the absolute truths of His Word.  These truths are something I cling to like a shipwrecked man hangs onto a rock in the deep.  And honestly, even in the times when my faith is rattled, I know that I can go back to Him, and He’ll grasp my hand and hold it firm.

So many young people read and follow this blog.  Their stories are so difficult, so full of pain and affliction.  I have nothing to offer really, besides the fact that they know that there are others on a similar path, but I wonder in the long run what benefit does that give?  I see in their blogs the number one commonality is loneliness.  Well I want to tell you that there is a God who doesn’t want you to be lonely.  He is a Savior who said, I will never leave you alone, or forget about you.  He says he never slumbers nor sleeps.  He tells us that His arm isn’t so short that He can not reach you, wherever you are.  And most of all, He longs to reason with you.. so that you can be as pure as clean, fallen snow.  Could I take you to Him?  Would you allow me to introduce you?  May I join your weary and heavily burdened hand to His?  It’s a choice you’ll never regret.

Therapy is wonderful.  Medication definitely has it’s place.  But these are all temporal, the only reach so far.  All the therapists and psychologists and therapies and pyschopharmacuticals and alcohol and drugs and sex and cutting and starving and binging and whatever else you do to help with your pain will only reach you on a certain level; whether for good or for not so good.  There is only once source of true help… of true relief.  That’s why we say our God is a very present help in a time of trouble.

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS.”  

~Jesus Christ, found in Matthew 18:28-29

    • #Abuse
    • #Anorexia
    • #Binging
    • #Bulimia
    • #Child Abuse
    • #Christianity
    • #Cutting
    • #Eating Disorders
    • #ED
    • #Eternity
    • #Faith
    • #Heaven
    • #Hope
    • #Jesus Christ
    • #Purging
    • #Rape
    • #Restricting
    • #Self Harm
    • #Self Injury
    • #Self Mutilation
    • #Sexual Abuse
  • 2 years ago
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Correcting a disservice

I was convicted about a disservice I had done to all our readers.  I talk so much about the anxiety and the strain but so little about the sustaining faith that gets us through it.  That just can’t be.  So over the next few Sundays I’m going to post something about what God is doing in us and through us, even in the midst of all this heart ache.

Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior.  He reminds me of the absolute truths of His Word.  These truths are something I cling to like a shipwrecked man hangs onto a rock in the deep.  And honestly, even in the times when my faith is rattled, I know that I can go back to Him, and He’ll grasp my hand and hold it firm.

So many young people read and follow this blog.  Their stories are so difficult, so full of pain and affliction.  I have nothing to offer really, besides the fact that they know that there are others on a similar path, but I wonder in the long run what benefit does that give?  I see in their blogs the number one commonality is loneliness.  Well I want to tell you that there is a God who doesn’t want you to be lonely.  He is a Savior who said, I will never leave you alone, or forget about you.  He says he never slumbers nor sleeps.  He tells us that His arm isn’t so short that He can not reach you, wherever you are.  And most of all, He longs to reason with you.. so that you can be as pure as clean, fallen snow.  Could I take you to Him?  Would you allow me to introduce you?  May I join your weary and heavily burdened hand to His?  It’s a choice you’ll never regret.

Therapy is wonderful.  Medication definitely has it’s place.  But these are all temporal, the only reach so far.  All the therapists and psychologists and therapies and pyschopharmacuticals and alcohol and drugs and sex and cutting and starving and binging and whatever else you do to help with your pain will only reach you on a certain level; whether for good or for not so good.  There is only once source of true help… of true relief.  That’s why we say our God is a very present help in a time of trouble.

“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS.”  

~Jesus Christ, found in Matthew 18:28-29

Source: kingjamesbibleonline.org

    • #Christianity
    • #Jesus Christ
    • #faith
    • #hope
    • #eating disorders
    • #ed
    • #binging
    • #purging
    • #restricting
    • #bulimia
    • #anorexia
    • #cutting
    • #self harm
    • #self injury
    • #self mutilation
    • #sexual abuse
    • #child abuse
    • #abuse
    • #rape
    • #Heaven
    • #eternity
  • 2 years ago
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And then, something positive

After our ‘terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day’ (have you ever read that book?) we had an interesting night.  Vale came in to wake me, and I completely freaked (uh, not completely) remained completely calm (not that either) woke up.  Vale’s brother just threw up on his bedroom floor.  Because of all that disturbance, the brother ended up sleeping in my bed and Vale in the recliner in my room, needless to say we all woke for the day very tired.

But the day did end on a very positive note, and I want to post about that.  Vale sang in a concert that evening (oh, does he have a beautiful voice!) and came home rather hungry.  We had ordered a couple of pizzas and Vale ate generously.  He came to me later and asked if he could sleep in our room, because he ate so much he really wanted to purge and he didn’t want to give in to it.  So of course we told him NO WAY!… of course not, we set him up a bed in our room.

I am so proud of him asking for help.  I know that I can provide him with all the love, support, therapy etc as possible, but unless he wants to help himself we’ll go nowhere fast.  Definitely a step in the right direction.

    • #self harm
    • #sexual abuse
    • #self injury
    • #cutting
    • #purging
    • #purge
    • #bulimia
    • #anorexia
    • #depression
    • #PTSD
  • 2 years ago
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Out of character.. in the flesh

Today is not a good day.  I’m angry.  At Vale.  He’s been making digging remarks about my weight but today was the worst.  I asked him to set the table for breakfast, I made some nice gingerbread pancakes.  He set me out a meat serving fork instead of a regular fork.  Because I “eat so much, and this way I could shovel it in faster”.

Really.

He thought he was being funny.  This from the boy who couldn’t complete his physically taxing jobs (that he agreed to do.  that he gets paid for) today because he’s too weak and wearies too quickly.

I want to slap him up side the head.  No, I didn’t whisper out loud: Foolish, scrawny, eating disordered, disrespectful punk.

I can’t say any of that.

Not only because it’s sinful to talk that way, and I would be ashamed at myself for being so unkind.  No, a mother shouldn’t ever let herself get in the way of doing right, but that’s not the only reason to watch what I say.  If I were to do so, he would go purge, or cut, or restrict…(and off he goes to the bathroom now.. )

He tried to apologize for what he did, tried to give me the whole, “it was only a joke” excuse.  No, you were being a jerk, Vale.  

Jaw sets

Anger

Walks away

Guess he wasn’t that sorry in the first place?  I’m so angry I don’t even care.  But really why.. because I’m that ashamed of myself.  I’m so ashamed of being this overweight.  Even more so now in contemplating that I may be a daily cause for his ED.  His self destruction is because I wanted a cheeseburger or an extra slice of chocolate cake far too many times?

He just came back from the bathroom… do I even ask?

  • Just stop eating as much ~ Just start eating more
  • Just start exercising ~ Just stop exercising
  • Just start controlling yourself more ~ Just start controlling yourself less
  • Just make better food choices ~ Just stop making so many food choices 

I’m going to sip my coffee (black, no sugar thankyouverymuch) and calm down.  I will not continue in this anger.  It’s wrong.  It’s not in the best interest of my son, who’s needs supersede my own right now.

    • #Anorexia
    • #Bulimia
    • #Eating Disorders
    • #Eating Disorders In Boys
    • #Purging
    • #Restricting
  • 2 years ago
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So does that mean…

If loosing those two pounds I worked so hard for Vale to gain means so much…. If being thin is the ideal… If the severe control of food is so important… what does Vale think of me?  I’m not close to thin.  I eat liberally. I need to loose far more than two pounds.

So does that mean he despises me?  Is embarrassed of me?  Is ashamed of me?  Does my body, my weight cause his eating disorder?

It’s lunch time.  I think the food will taste like ash.

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  • 2 years ago
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I found another blog about a boy with eating disorders! Woo hoo!

Link: I found another blog about a boy with eating disorders! Woo hoo!

How anorexia has affected our family and why recovery from anorexia is possible. Our (then) 15 year old son developed anorexia in summer 2009. Following rapid weight loss and personality transformation (typical with anorexia), we got on the waiting list for UK treatment with CAMHS (Child & Adolescent Mental Health Services) which started in March 2010. After a rocky start, by Autumn 2010 our son finally turned a corner. Anorexiaboyrecovery blog is about his recovery from anorexia in 2011.

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    • #Eating Disorders In Boys
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  • 2 years ago
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  I think this video relates the surprise by most people that a boy can have an eating disorder.  I love the grammar on this ‘professional’ woman.  She really gives the issue credence with her eloquence. *sigh*

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  • 2 years ago
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